Author: Becky Storey
We all know that when the mood strikes can be unpredictable and often impractical. It’s not always possible to dash home to your partner when you want to, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer in silence.
Foreplay is essential for great sex. It gets us in the mood, builds our connection and honestly, it’s just fun. Unfortunately, we often limit our ideas to the bedroom and only start right before we’re about to have sex. Many couples find themselves stuck in the same routine of kissing, touching and oral sex, without ever considering other foreplay ideas that could transform their sex lives.
Foreplay though is a powerful tool you can use anywhere, anytime, that many of us are taking for granted. If you want, foreplay can last all day. Sometimes, the longer you wait, the more incredible the release is.
The Art of Sexting
It’s 2021, sexting isn’t a secret anymore. It’s not all about illicit, dimly lit pictures either. When it’s with someone you trust, sexting is a great way to build sexual tension when you’re away from your partner. Sending pictures, via apps like Snapchat or straight to text if you’re feeling brave and trusting, is always a bonus. They don’t have to be nudes either, often, keeping some mystery for later is even more enjoyable. Scandalous video calls can be exciting too, to really show each other what they’re missing.
Pictures are a great addition to sexting, but they aren’t the be-all and end-all. Using your words is vital and could be sexier for your partner. That’s not to say your partner doesn’t want to see, but sometimes it’s nice to hear what you’ve got to look forward to when you get home too. Describing what you want to do to each other, or what you want to be done to you, is a game-changer and can even open up doors for better communication in the bedroom.
It might sound a little alarming, but public foreplay does not involve anything illegal or any indecent exposure! It’s all about building heat while you’re out and about together, so when you get home it will be all the more intense. Let’s be honest, we all love a little of what’s forbidden anyway.
Simple, subtle moves make a huge difference when it’s secret. Try sliding your hand up your partner's thigh while you sit in a restaurant and watch them lose focus at a dinner with their parents. You could even put their hand on your own leg if you’re feeling assertive.
Sometimes it can be hard to do, but if you’re smooth with your words, tell your partner exactly what you want when you get home. Even something as simple as prolonged, intentional, eye contact can set your heart racing and get you to imagine what could be waiting for you when you get home.
Think Outside the Bedroom
You don’t have to be out of the house to get out of your bedroom rut. You can begin foreplay anywhere, whenever you’re in the mood. Sharing showers and baths are great for increasing the heat and allows you to explore physical touch much more than you normally would. Consider heating things up on the living room sofa, dining table or even kitchen counters – nothing is off-limits.
Once you’re out of the bedroom you’ll feel freer to explore foreplay ideas that aren’t part of your usual routine, because you aren’t in the place where it usually happens.