Author: This Kinda Girl
People start swinging for a variety of different reasons. Not everyone is following the same path, and what some couples enjoy is entirely different from what you may enjoy. Some people start swinging as they want to watch others having sex within the safe and inclusive environment of a swingers party. Others like to be watched, and again, this desire can be made a reality by attending swinging clubs and parties where you can surround yourself with others who enjoy your kinks!
Some people like to watch their wives having sex with other men, and again this is easily achievable in a swingers club!
Others decide to get into swinging as they want to explore their Bisexual side within the security of their established relationship. There are no right and wrong ways to swing and why people start swinging is usually a combination of reasons.
Psychological Effects Of Swinging
It sounds like a contradiction what I’m going to say next but bear with me. Ok?
Opening up your relationship and joining the swinger lifestyle brings more closeness and exclusivity to your relationship.
Through swinging, or pursuing an 'open' relationship, you will experience a different kind of emotional intimacy. One that I believe deepens and strengthens the bonds between you.
You and your partner will both be able to share and express parts of your sexuality that have previously remained hidden. Who wouldn't want to share their inner most desires with the person they feel most comfortable with? Sharing without the fear of being judged is a beautiful feeling.
Reconnecting after swinging is a crucial step and one that many couples dont consider before starting swinging. Reconnecting is vital for strengthening bonds. Sharing your afterthoughts allows you to discuss, explore and acknowledge your desires in a safe and nurturing environment. When you reconnect with your partner, you discuss what you enjoyed, and didn't enjoy. What emotions arose and how whatever you participated in made you feel. Only you and your partner share this reconnecting, which in turn draws you closer together. You only have to look at strong swinger couples to see how in love they are! The connection and understanding you create could never be replaced by someone who isn't in the lifestyle. It simply wouldn't work.
Downsides of swinging
Swinging isn't always peachy, and if you are wanting to learn about how to convince your wife to start swinging, you also have to prepare for the downsides. Yes, there are a few negative's you have to consider!
Understandably, swingers like to be discreet, and if you are talking to your partner about starting swinging, then you both need to be prepared for making a discreet couples profile and being approached by couples who also want to remain hidden. You certainly don’t have to tell anyone that you’re interested in the lifestyle, and no one’s going to find out unless you tell them. Sometimes it can be a worry that you may meet people you know within swinging circles, but they are there for the same reasons as you!
Jealousy and insecurity are both very natural emotions to feel, and I'd be lying if I said I hadn't experienced them at some point over the years. There are occasions that I feel insecure, even though I dont want to. Acknowledging that insecurity is perfectly normal is the first step into dealing with it healthily. We all feel uncertain about things from time to time. Whether its a physical part of our bodies or how we feel about a situation.
In conclusion, people start swinging for a variety of different reasons. Not everyone is following the same path, and what some couples and singles enjoy is entirely different from what you may enjoy. Some people start swinging as they want to watch others having sex and spying on their vanilla neighbours would get them arrested. However, watching couples having sex within the comfort of a swinger’s party is a safe, inclusive environment. Others like to be watched, and again, this desire can be made a reality by attending swinging clubs and parties where you can surround yourself with others who enjoy your kinks!
Some people like to watch their wives having sex with other men, and again this is easily achievable in a swinger’s club!
I have said it before, and I will repeat it. There are no right and wrongs ways to swing and why people start swinging is usually a combination of reasons.
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